This website is here to enable you to find your own path forward. It brings together gentle, heartfelt, and clear guidance in one place – whether you’re navigating your own grief, supporting someone else through theirs, or if you’ve been impacted in another way (for example, if you’ve witnessed or discovered a death by suicide).
You’ll find information about common grief reactions, practical things you may need to take care of, and places to find tautoko/support. While your own experience is unique, we hope what’s here can help you feel more grounded, more supported, and less alone.
This site is run by the Mental Health Foundation on behalf of the Ministry of Health - Manatū Hauora, with input from people with lived experience of suicide loss.
We send you aroha and acknowledge your loss.
Language used on this website
Throughout this website, we’ve mostly used the term ‘suspected suicide’. This is because a death is not legally considered a suicide until the coroner formally confirms the cause. If the cause of death is unexplained the term ‘sudden death’ might be preferred instead. This language reflects both the legal process and the sensitivity needed during such a difficult time. We use it with care and respect for whānau who may be waiting for answers.
We also understand people have different and deeply personal connections to the person who has died: they may have been a whānau member, friend, colleague, neighbour, or someone else significant. To respect all these relationships, we’ve mostly used the phrase 'the person who died’. We understand this may feel a little formal, but it’s not meant to take away from the depth of your connection.
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If you're supporting someone bereaved by suspected suicide
Supporting someone after they have been impacted by suspected suicide can be both meaningful and challenging. Everyone grieves differently, and there is no ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ way to grieve. You may not know what to say or how to help, and that’s understandable and okay.
What matters most is showing up with compassion. Let the person or whānau know you’re there for them. Listen. Offer practical support if you can.
This website is for you, too: to help you support others with aroha, confidence, and manaaki/care. Ngā mihi – thank you for being here.