It can help to keep everything together in one place using a notebook, folder or box, making it easy to find. You could also use an online folder and documents.
You may like to keep a notebook with notes to yourself, or a list in your phone. Use it to record and keep important contact details and key information.
In the early days, weeks and months after a death, people bereaved by suicide often say they’re more forgetful and preoccupied than usual. Their thinking may seem slower and they can feel stunned and disorientated for a while. This is a common side effect of shock and grief. This is why, as you sort things out, being kind to yourself is both important and practical. Take things step by step. Take the time you need.
It’s normal to find tasks like this trigger grief reactions. Expect them - these are part of the territory when someone close to you has died.
Get someone to help you
It can help you to have a support person with you at this time, such as a friend or a relative. They can give you emotional support and help with day-to-day chores, make phone calls and take messages. It may also help to take someone with you to meetings or appointments. They could:
- help with transport
- listen and remember things for you
- pick up any details you miss or are unclear about
- talk with you later about how the meeting went
- speak on your behalf if you feel too upset.
If you need advice about practical, legal or financial matters, ask others you trust, or contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau, Victim Support or Community Law Centre.