In the middle of grief, these communications can feel overwhelming.
It may help to keep everything in one place, such as a notebook, folder, box, or even a digital folder on your phone or computer. You could also keep a list of important names, numbers, and to-dos on your phone or in a notebook you carry with you.
In the early days, weeks, and even months after a loss, many people feel more forgetful, foggy or scattered than usual. You might find it hard to concentrate or remember simple things. This is a normal and common response to shock and grief. Your mind is simply doing its best to cope.
These tasks don’t have to be rushed, and it’s okay to take breaks. It's also completely normal for grief to rise up while you’re doing practical things, like filling out forms, making calls or reading official letters.
Let someone support you
Having someone by your side during this time can make a big difference. Ask a friend, whānau member, or trusted person to help you. They can offer both emotional and practical tautoko/support, like:
- Helping respond to phone calls or emails
- Coming with you to hui/meetings or appointments
- Providing transport, or just sitting beside you
- Taking notes, remembering key details, or asking questions you might forget
Speaking on your behalf if you feel too overwhelmed to talk.
If you need advice on legal, financial or practical matters, reach out to someone you trust, or contact one of these services for free support:
There’s no ‘right’ way to do this, only what works for you. Go gently and take the time you need.
